Wednesday, October 30, 2013

省不了油

上个礼拜沮丧得不得了。

把儿子拉拔成100公斤,把屎把尿,昔日苦心今日却堪无造诣。尚无。却意外盼到学校连续寄来两封通告,上课迟到记过,扣去操行分数若干。这样的事,居然发生在这样的年纪。当妈的连招双番打击,钻牛角尖去了。

怎地这么不省事啊?据他说,因为休息时间仅10分钟,来不及吃完杂饭,匆匆赶及,老师已入课室。可是怎能一再犯同样错误呢? 理由说出来,只觉这孩子怎地医肚头等大事,分外耿直不知变通。否则就是另有隐情,不便相告。那更让妈咪胡思乱想,杯弓蛇影。

另外给15岁男孩当代理妈妈,原来也是同样毫不省事。

这个年龄的臭屁孩,额头上都应该贴着《Brain Under Construction》,用意提醒看着他们情绪起伏如骤雨疾雷的我们,稍安勿躁,请抚心回首自己当年,何不同样浑身刺。那时自己的父母是否硬吞怒气,搞成心肌梗塞乃必经之路。

稍安勿躁,施工未竣,请宽容厚待,多谢海量。谁叫你是家长。幸是之前已有对付老大的经验,所以没有大惊小怪。因为老大不省油,于是所能发生的难过早已领教了,有前车之鉴。

或者到底不是怀胎十月,隔层血缘,反没什么紧张。比较像以师长的身份殷殷导之。

尽管孩子多愁善感,我依然坦言剖析,直击中心。不然甜言蜜语再多,掩得了一时,遮不了一世。相处时间也不多了。谁喜欢长年累月一直演戏呢?不累吗?花无百日好,总有凋谢时。人也一样,总带点缺点需改进,不该添他人麻烦。就缺个指点的人,专心聆听的人。

毕竟已建立感情,了无主宾之分,所以才牵肠挂肚,日思暮想,希望你好,希望你省点事,让我心安。

我把2009年给12岁老大 写的信翻出来,让他用谷歌翻译了来读。读毕,孩子居然眼眶润湿,语气哽咽,说信写得‘硬’。叫他感动的意思。

谷歌这样粗糙的翻译,能有此等效果,能不叫当妈的心宽成一片汪洋吗?
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                                                 给老大的信

儿子:

              当年火星和水星撞击之后,一颗陨石碎片跌入妈妈的肚子里头,你是付在陨石上的一缕思维,冒烟着地后,丰盛的盆地,让你复制复制又复制,终于长成一个胚胎,由灵变成了体。
              当初为什么是你来而不是别的男孩或女孩?妈妈不得而知。同样的为什么是我来当你的盆地,而不是来彦的妈妈或小薇的妈妈?没人能解释给我们听。即使我们去问佛或神,他们只能玄又玄的用“缘分”两个字来敷衍我们愚笨的智慧。
              那么没办法,我们俩只好接受这样的命运,没有选择机会的,是就是了。如果高僧对我们说,前世妈妈是你的女儿,被你善待,现世来回报,你的脑筋一定打结;为什么回报还要骂你怪你?
              你在我肚里哧哧越长越大,像吹气球一样,最后没位子只好摒弃那个人肉宫殿,自己出人头地。往后同样的情形会重演,你必定会离开家庭,出去找自己的另一段人生。
              现在妈妈不管太远的事,即使你的脚板已经长得比我还长,你的背已经宽大得我可以靠着打个小盹;我依然时常想把你拥在怀里,身体太大抱不了,把你的大头贴在胸前也得了。想当年你伏在我怀里吃奶时,全身也只有现在的头那么大而已。
              请不要质疑我对你的爱,即使教训了你之后。爱你还是爱你,没什么理由应该减少或消失。管你是免得你坏,当你花上整个晚上粘在电脑前,当你不断吃薯片,当你瞒骗不做功课等等等,妈妈不能再喂你蜜糖的笑脸,继续送上薯片满足你。因为爱也包含痛。
              所以白天尽管跟你呕气了,夜里你睡之后,妈妈还是用嘴唇印满你的大方脸。妈妈已经学会不问为什么你来当我的儿子,为什么不是那个年年考第一的臭小子、不是那个会演会唱赛跑还第一的猴孙子。如果你也是背对着我有同样的念头:为什么我不是那个时常给一百块零用的妈妈、不是你要什么高达玩具马上买的妈妈、不管你上网多久都不理的妈妈;我认为,我们认清事实吧!你妈妈我就是爱多管闲事,特别要数数你的脚趾头有没有齐全。因为那个没办法的血缘,我们都要学会忍受对方。
              其实我也很期待甭管你的日子,那是你已经能够为你的心灵穿上盔甲的时候,不会为芝麻小事哭红了眼的时候。其实也是了解什么是小事,什么是大事的时候。比如说,被拒绝买《变形金刚》玩具是小事,为了怕被责骂窜改分数是大事。坚强有时候需要面对挫折、难堪、打击,很多时候比懦弱更困难。然而那是“我甭再管你”的路标,之后你就可以自控速度,驰骋人生。
              你知道我日日夜夜在等你什么时候可以跟我脑波咻来咻去,通行无阻。隔层头皮头壳是小问题,认知鸿沟才深不见底。现在我觉得保持书包整洁、跟老师维持良好关系、起身一定要刷牙很重要;以后我还觉得把书念好、善良对待同学(不管他是什么族群)、参加社区活动去捡垃圾也重要;再以后我认为把份内工作做好、定时交税务、不要作奸犯科更重要。到头来只是,求心安。
              宠爱就是让你为所欲为,最后你变圆也好,变方也好,或扭曲成麻花也好,不关提供宠爱的人的事。所以你明白为什么我不能宠你么?不只是你,弟弟也是。因为我在乎你们会不会让我心安。
              好吧,你都知道了,只要你把我的右手往后一拗,我就疼哭了。握有妈妈的一个弱点,你会好受一点吗?因为妈妈也不过是个平凡人,不是无法挑战的神。现在妈妈能做的是尽量引导你,希望你不要轻易服输,学习坚强。还有尽管我老是把你和爸爸洗好的内裤对调乱摆,麻烦你体谅一下---你知道你的身体已经逐渐胀大,只是脑皮下的细胞要追一追,赶下进度。
              儿子,咳嗽生病了,祝你早日康复,早点有力气重新跟我呕气。
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面对挫折,保持微笑,可能比较容易解决。      

p.s.自己上谷歌翻译一瞧,翻出来的文章,哪能读呢? 这下他讲的'hard(硬)’ 会不会是表示很‘难’明白呢?哎哎,难道是我一厢情愿了?真糗!

p.s.隔天赶紧问,“好不好妈咪亲口给你翻译呢?”臭屁孩居然说,“It's ok,不需要了。” 唉,这文化隔膜啊。。。。

Monday, October 28, 2013

还没讲完的多神宗教《Polytheism》

连续上一篇。材料取自互联网课程《The Brief History of Humankind》。

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The basic polytheistic insight is that the supreme power of the universe has no interest and no biases. So if people want help in their mundane affairs, they should address one of the subordinate gods, rather than the supreme power. And each person could choose whatever god or gods, were most suitable to him.

One person wanted to worship Apollo, another person worshiped Zeus. A third person worshiped Aphrodite and so forth. With time, however followers of certain polytheistic gods, they became so fond their particular god, that they drifted away from this basic insight.

They began to believe that their particular god is not one among many, but is the only god and that he is in fact, identical to the supreme power of the universe. Yet, at the same time, they continued to view their god as having interests and biases.

They continued to believe, that their god even though it is the supreme power of the universe, it still cares about the mundane affairs of humans and that they can still make all kinds of deals with this god, like doing this sacrifice in exchange for getting victory in the war or whatever.

This is how monotheistic religions were born. Monotheistic religions believe that you could make deals with the supreme power of the universe, in order to recover from illness, or win the lottery or gain victory in war.

The first monotheistic religion which we know about for sure appeared in ancient Egypt, about 1314 B.C. when Pharoah Akhenaten declared that one of the previously minor deities of the Egyptian pantheon, the god Athen was in fact the supreme power, ruling the entire universe and all the other gods and goddesses. Akhenaten institutionalized the worship of Athen as the state religion and tried to stop the worship of all the other gods and goddesses.

His religious revolution however was unsuccessful. After he died, or was murdered, we are not sure, the worship of Athen was abandoned. And the Egyptian returned to worshiping the old pantheon of gods and goddesses.

Over the centuries, polytheism continued to give birth here and there, to other monotheistic religions, but they remained marginal, no least because they failed to digest, to understand their own universal message.

Judaism for example, is a religion that argued that the supreme power of the universe has biases and interests, but his chief interest is in the small Jewish nation, in this obscure land of Israel. And Judaism had very little to offer other lands and other nations. So it's no wonder that the two remained a rather marginal religion and did not spread very widely.

The big breakthrough of monotheism came only with Christianity. In the beginning was no more than an esoteric Jewish sect that taught Jews that Jesus of Nazareth was their long awaited messiah. However one of the first leaders of the Christian sect, a man by the name of Paul of Tarsus, he reasoned that if the supreme power of the universe has interests and biases and if he had bothered to incarnate himself in the flesh and to die on the cross for the salvation of humankind, then this is something that everybody should hear about, not just the Jews.

And Paul's arguments fell on fertile ground. Christians began to organize widespread missionary activities, which were aimed at all human beings not only at Jews. And in one of the strangest twists ever in human history, this tiny persecuted esoteric Jewish sect, managed to take over the mighty Roman Empire and from this base spread later on, over greater parts of the world.

The amazing success of the Christians later on served as the model for another monotheistic religion, that appeared in the Arabian peninsula, in the 7th century. Like Christian, Islam too began as a small sect in a remote corner of the world. But in an even stranger and swifter historical surprise, Islam managed to break out the desert of Arabia and to conquer an immense empire, stretching from the Atlantic Ocean to the Indian Ocean and beyond.

Henceforth, the monotheistic ideal became a central player in the world history. Monotheists, it's important to realize about them something that they tended to be, not always, but in many occasions, much more fanatical and also much more missionary, than polytheists. A religion that recognizes the legitimacy of other faith, implies either that its god is not the supreme power of the universe or that it received from the one and only god, only part of the universal truth. This is something that polytheists were able to live with. But monotheists could not live with these ideals.

Since monotheists usually believed that they are in possession of the entire message of the one and only god, they were compelled to discredit all other religions. If our religion is true, no other religion can also simultaneously be true.

Over the last two millennium, monotheists repeated tried to prove the truth of their religion and to strengthen their position, simply by exterminating all the competition with violence, with persecutions and holy wars. Whereas polytheists very rarely wage religious wars and persecutions, monotheists began to wage a lot of them, and it worked.

At the beginning of the first century A.D., there were hardly any monotheists in the world. Over the last 2000 years, monotheist religions became the dominant religions of the entire world, with the exception of east and southeast Asia, where Hinduism, Buddhism and Confucianism are still dominant.

Yet polytheism and animism did not completely disappear. Even though monotheists persecuted the old animist and polytheist religions, in many ways the animist and polytheist beliefs and practices continued to live on within the monotheist religions.

Because most people have found it difficult to fully accept and digest the monotheist universal ideal that there is only one God and that this one God cares about everybody equally. This was very hard for people to accept because sapiens as we discussed, are biologically tend to divide the world into we versus they. And sapiens always want to be in contact with powerful entities, that will help us against them.

So the idea there is only one power, supreme power in the world and that he cares about everybody equally, this was very difficult, even for Christians and Muslims to fully accept and understand. Consequently Christianity proclaimed publicly that there is only one God and that nobody should worship any other gods. But, simultaneously Christianity created an entire new panthaeon of saints, and people simply began to worship all kinds of Christian saints just as previously they worshiped all kinds of different gods.

In the middle ages, and even today to same extent every Christian kingdom and state has its own patron saint, that helps it to overcome difficulties and to win wars, even wars against other Christian countries.

England for example, was and is protected by Saint George. Scotland is helped by a different saint, Saint Andrew. Hungary is helped by Saint Stefan and France by Saint Martin. So when the king of England and the king of France went to war in the middle ages, it is believed that Saint Martin helps the French and Saint George helps the English.

It's just like the old gods. Not only countries but also cities and towns and professions and even particular diseases, each had its own patron saint.

For example the city of Milan in Italy, was protected by Saint Ambrose. The city of Venice was looked after by Saint Matthew. When a tax collector was in trouble, he called on Saint Matthew to help him because Saint Matthew was the patron saint of tax collectors. If you suffered from a headache, you prayed to Saint Agathius, he was responsible for headaches. But if you suffered from a toothache, then you prayed to Saint Apollonia. She was responsible for helping with toothaches.

The Christian saints did not merely resemble the old polytheistic gods, in many occasions, they're exactly the same gods in disguise. For example in Ireland the chief goddess of Celtic Ireland before the coming of Christianity to the island was the goddess Brigid.

When Ireland was converted to Christianity, people did not stop worshiping Brigid, they simply changed her name and story. They baptized her to Christianity. The Celtic goddess Brigid became the Catholic saint, Saint Brigid. And to this very day, the most revered saint in Catholic Ireland is Saint Brigid, the descendant of this polytheistic goddess.

So in this way polytheism gave birth to monotheism. And even though monotheism turned against its parent and tried to destroy polytheism, polytheism continued to survive within monotheism, in all kinds of prophecies and beliefs.
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关照古往今来,人性是顽固不化的, 也是愚昧的。

有个大哉问:

宗教是为人类服务?或是相反的,人该为宗教(神)服务?

Friday, October 25, 2013

Polytheism《多神宗教》续集

继续上上一篇,《什么是polytheism?》

记得好几年前,大宝升节刚过,办公室里的印裔小妹妹带游行的相片簿来分享。我从成叠的七彩兴都教神祗中找到一个白脸孔的观世音佛像,下巴几乎掉下。小妹妹笑嘻嘻说,是呀,观世音也算是我们的其中一位神。那时我的脑筋实在是卡主,不知该作何想。

大概从自家宗教开始学习的话,不会看到比较‘全面’的描绘。得从更长的年代,跨越几千、纵横几万年,方摸索得出少许轮廓,理解一点道理。 毕竟每个宗教多少总会有一言堂之举。而拉长时间仔细观察人类历史,就有另一番体会。

上次抄到多神宗教有不理人世的全能力量,the supreme power,因为祂不管事,人类只好塑造或 拜托比较低层次的神祗,符合各种祈求,造就百花齐放百家争鸣。
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One of the implications of this basic polytheistic insight, is that polytheists turned to be tolerant towards the religious beliefs of other people. Since polytheists believe on the one hand, in one supreme but completely disinterested power, and on the other hand, in many partial and biased powers, all these gods and goddesses. Then polytheists have no difficulty to accept the existence and the efficacy of all kinds of gods.

I may worship this god or this goddess, but there are others in the world, it's very obvious to polytheists. Polytheists are therefore inherently open minded and they rarely in history persecuted heretics or infidels. Because again, it's very easy for you to accept, to recognize, the existence of other gods and goddesses. I may not want to worship that god but yes, somebody else might.

Even when polytheists conquered huge empires, they almost never tried to convert those subjects, the conquered people to their own religion. For example when the Egyptians, or when the Romans, or when the Aztecs, the conquered huge empires, they did not try to force all the people they controlled to convert, to the Roman or to  the Aztec religion.

And they also did not send missionaries to foreign lands beyond their control to convince people in other countries to accept our gods. The subject people's in the empire will of course require to respect the gods of the empire and the rituals of the empire, because these gave legitimacy to the empire and it was a sign of loyalty to the empire. But the subject people will not require to give up their own gods and rituals.

In many cases the imperial elite actually adopted the gods and the rituals of the subject people. For example, Roman elites were very happy to add all kinds of Asian goddesses and Egyptian Gods to their Pantheon. In the later Roman Empire you find many Romans worshiping as a Asiatic goddess Kibela and the Egyptian goddess Isis. They were particular popular among the Roman elites.

The only god that for a very long time the Romans refused to tolerate was the monotheistic god of the Christians. The Roman empire did not require the Christians to give up their beliefs and rituals, but it did expect the Christians to pay respect to the empire's protector gods and to the divinity of the emperor. The emperor in Rome was also considered a god.

Now, this was simply seen as a declaration of political loyalty. When the Christian, vehemently refused to accept the gods of the empire and the divinity of the emperor, and went on to reject all the different attempts to reach a compromise, it was only then that the Romans reacted by persecuting the Christians, for what they understood to be political subversion.

The Christians were not persecuted due to religious intolerance on the side of the Romans, but because the Romans considered the Christian's refusal to accept the divinity of the emperor, and to acknowledge the protector gods of the empire, it was considered political disloyal.

This is why they were persecuted. Even this persecution of the Christians, it was done in a very half hearted way by the Romans. In the 300 years that passed from the crucifixion of Jesus Christ up to the conversion of Emperor Constantine to Christianity, polytheistic Roman emperors initiated no more than four general persecutions of Christians which lasted a relatively short time.

Local governors in all kinds of provinces, they incited some anti-Christian violence on their own in addition to these general persecutions.But still, if we combine all the victims of all these persecutions of Christians by the polytheistic Romans, it turns out that in three centuries the polytheistic Romans killed no more than a few thousand Christians.

In contrast over the course of the next 1500 years, Christians slaughtered Christians in the millions to defend slightly different interpretations of the religion of love and compassion.The persecution of monotheists by monotheists was far more severe by several orders of magnitude than any persecution ever initiated by polytheistic religions.
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 材料取自网络课程《A Brief History of Humankind》 by The Hebrew University of Jerusalem. 关于人类宗教历史的简单论述,没有剪接,完整呈现。
(取自互联网课程)
这个论题还有不少相关的篇幅,相当新颖的观点,当做知识吸取,迟点再贴。

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

进击的巨人



据说是目前很红的动画片。老大在追,老幺跟着看。老大会追是因为班上同学正热烈讨论。

然后午夜近12点,老幺用了10分钟画这幅随笔。画满半张纸后,继续给报上的人像画花脸。

刚好画在上星期日头版的照片上,凯里、沙丽扎和玛斯艾米亚蒂。


Saturday, October 19, 2013

什么是polytheism?

KUALA LUMPUR, Oct 18 — Banning non-Muslims from calling God “Allah” is tantamount to “syirik”, which refers to the sin of practicing idolatry or polytheism and is an unforgivable crime in Islam, respected Islamic scholar and former Perlis Mufti Datuk Dr Asri Zainul Abidin has warned Muslims.(The Malay Mail Online-Oct 18)

阿拉的称呼闹得沸沸扬扬,如烧开的沸水,一不小心就会烫伤。上面剪摘玻璃市受尊重的前伊斯兰顾问的发言。

世上的主要宗教粗略分成两种,一神教和多神教。一神教英文叫着monotheism,那么顾名思义,多神教就是polytheism了。基督教、犹太教和伊斯兰是一神教,只膜拜唯一的上帝。多神教就很热闹,因为涵盖许许多多各式各样的神祗,如古希腊、古罗马、印度教、中国人传统宗教等。

对基督徒、穆斯林和犹太教徒来说,信奉多神是一种罪,是偶像崇拜(idolatry)。所以才有宗教师Asri博士以上的立场。

我才疏学浅,不敢卖弄,不过刚好听到有关的课,觉得有趣,贴上来分享。课程内容是哪里来的呢?当然是长达17星期的网络课程,《A Brief History of Humankind》,由The Hebrew University of Jerusalem的Dr Yuval Noah Harari教授的。
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As animism, polytheism also  tends to believe in all these holy rocks and holy trees and demons and the fairies, but polytheists also believe very importantly, in very powerful entities which are called gods. Polytheists believe that yes, there are all kind of fairies and demons in the world, but at the end of the day, the world is governed, above all, by a collection of gods.

2000 years of monotheistic brainwashing have caused most Westerners, most people who believe in Christianity, Islam and Judaism to view polytheism as some kind of ignorant and childish idolatry, like praying to rocks and to all kinds of gods and goddesses. But this is a very unjust stereotype.

Polytheism in fact have a very strong logic behind it, the inner logic of polytheism, the central idea that led polytheists to believe in the existence of many gods, many different powers that rule the world. Polytheism does not necessarily dispute the existence of a single power or a single law that governs the entire universe, including all the different gods.

In fact, most polytheists and even most animist religions recognized the existence of such a supreme power or supreme law that stands behind all the different gods and demons and holy robes. 

For example, in classical Greek polytheism, all the gods, the Zues and Hera and Apolla and so forth were subject to an omnipotent and all encompassing power which is the power that really rules the world and this was called Fate, Moira or Ananke. All the gods are helpless in the face of Fate.

In Hinduism, in the Hindu polytheist  religion, there is also a single principle called sometimes, the Atman, which controls all the different gods and spirits, and also humans and animals, and plants and everything in the world. Atman is considered the eternal essence, or the eternal soul of the whole universe, as well as being the essence of the soul of every individual and every phenomena. Every individual, every tree, every rock is part of this Atman. 

So the idea that there is a single power or law governing the entire universe is not alien to polytheism. What is the fundamental insight of polytheism which distinguishes it from monotheism, from the belief in a single god like Christianity or Islam, is that the supreme power governing the world, according to the polytheists, is devoid of interests, have no biases and interests. And therefore it is completely unconcerned of the mundane desires and cares and worries of human beings.

It's pointless according to polytheists to come to the supreme power of the universe and ask for his help in gaining victory in war or ask for help in gaining health or causing rain to fall, because from the all encompassing vantage point of the supreme power of the universe, it makes absolutely no difference, whether a particular kingdom wins or losses this war, whether a particular city prospers or collapses, whether a particular person lives or dies. 

This is why the Greeks even though they thought that fate is the supreme power of the universe and even the gods are helpless in the face of fate.The Greeks did not waste any sacrifices or prayers on fate, because fate would not listen to you. 

Similarly, the Hindus built temples to almost anything you can imagine, but Hindus did not build temples to Atman, the eternal supreme soul of the universe, because this supreme power has no interests, no biases. So you can't make deals with it. You can't say, I'll sacrifice this or that, pray to you in this prayer or that prayer and in return, you will help me. Because it won't help you. 

The only reason according to polytheistic religion to affront the supreme power of the universe would be to renounce all desires, and to embrace the bad things that happen in the world alongside the good things, to accept defeat, to accept poverty, to accept sickness, to accept death. 

For example in Hinduism, there are some Hindus, the religious elite, known as Sadhus or Sannyasis, they devote their lives to uniting with the Atman. They devote their lives to achieving enlightenment. Enlightenment, according to Hinduism means to view the world from the viewpoint of this supreme, fundamental principal and to realize that from this eternal perspective, all the mundane desires and hopes and fears and ambitions of humans are completely meaningless and ephemeral phenomena. 

But most Hindus are not Sadhus, they are very much interested and have been for thousands of years in all kinds of mundane ambitions. And Atman is not going to help them achieve any of these ambitions. For assistance in such matters, like curing yourself from a disease, or winning a lot of money in the lottery, you cannot approach the Atman. 

So for these purposes, the Hindus approach the different Gods with their various haltshield powers. Now precisely because the powers of Ponchio, not all encompassing, gods such as Ganesha or Lakshmi or Saraswati. They have interests and biases. And because of that, humans can approach them and make deals with them.They can rely on their help in order to win wars, or winning the lottery, a lot of money, or cooperate from illness. 

This then is the fundamental insight of polytheistic religions like Hinduism.The supreme power of the universe has absolutely no interests and no biases. So if we want help with our mundane problems and ambitions, we must approach the partial and biased powers. And there are necessarily many such smaller powers, because once you begin to divide the all encompassing power of a supreme principal, you inevitably end up with more than one deity. 

Once you move from the supreme from the pinnacle of the pyramid, and you start dividing the power into all kinds of less encompassing powers than you get more than one. And this is why you have the Atman, and below the Atman you have all kinds of different gods. And each time, you may address a different god which may or may not help you in your ambitions. 

下回继续。
在英国有习惯法,替你先决定过马路应该看哪里。去到其他地方,不能仅靠一套规矩,不然可能横尸大路。宗教也是一样。

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

虎头蜂嘤嘤地等候

最近闲书读得慢,日子忙,有许多事儿缠身,都是琐碎逐条待解,没去办没人会做,做了亦没什么成就感之类。连报纸也累计近一星期,天天挤点时间看上星期的报,以世事一日千里之势,我永远在读旧闻。

三日没读书面目可憎,以我的面目,有没读过书也没差。

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今天开始翻简媜《好一座浮岛》,光读前言就觉得痛快,特抄段留念:
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。。虽然至今仍会背诵:“吾十有五而志于学,三十而立里,四十而不惑。。。。”这段孔老夫子佳言录,自己眼看也要扬步跨越四十门槛成为千禧年一枝花,偏偏不知怎地开始有惑。(书是2004年出版)首先,觉得孔老夫子骗人,四十岁就能不惑,道行未免高了点。不过,古人寿命短今人寿长,四十之数依‘年龄汇率’兑换约值八十,换言之,今人活到八十若能不惑即是圣人。依这算法,现在的我尚未‘弱冠’,血气方刚乃是正常。

现代人一旦挨近四十边儿,不仅有惑,还以惑养惑,惶惶然踏入中年叛逆期,造自己的反。在事业上静极思动,跳槽、转业或创业,成功者立即有财经杂志专题报导,冠以‘跨世纪接班人’或‘大师’、‘教父’、‘天王’等狗项圈般的封号(不过,数位时代绝对是史无前例具有‘弑父情怀’的时代,四十二岁的人只能给二十四岁电脑鬼才当警卫),失败者则不必赘言。感情上也不安静,二度单身、汰旧换新或兼容并蓄,抽屉里不乏‘悔过书’或‘离婚协议书’,最糟的是‘验伤单’。身体也开始闹事,该软不软,该硬不硬,遂一夕之间从美食享乐者变成生机饮食的狂热信徒。若无以上事例,必然另有玄机;要不是年纪一大把才生个小孩(或又生一个)藉此注射‘中年危机’疫苗,即是三更半夜忽地将红尘看得半破,天一亮成为慈济志工。

四十岁很麻烦,学问、修为固然有点积蓄,但那本钱只够摸到上帝的腰围,没多大长进。年轻像一件薄薄的花衬衫,即使是恶寒天气也能招蜂引蝶把春天骗回来。四十不是,像穿着别人闷了两个冬天没洗的厚大衣,再怎么谈笑讌讌,就是有霉味。

我的惑是自找的,没人惹我。先是两只眼睛觉得干涩、戳热,接着看什么都不顺眼了。原本清楚明白的事物,忽然变得面目模糊;昔日真金不换的道理,于今与破铜相类。我查遍各大医院眼科,有看‘白内障’、‘青光眼’的,但没一位医生专治‘不顺眼’。这病发作时又不限眼睛,几乎是全身不舒服,即使把门锁得紧紧地, 也觉得门后有一百只虎头蜂嘤嘤地等候。。。

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虽然我已六十,读起来还是怎地贴心!

Sunday, October 13, 2013

继续奋斗


Simon and Garfunkel - The Boxer


I am just a poor boy
Though my story's seldom told
I have squandered my resistance
For a pocket full of mumbles such are promises
All lies and jests
Still a man hears what he wants to hear
And disregards the rest

When I left my home and my family
I was no more than a boy
In the company of strangers
In the quiet of the railway station running scared
Laying low, seeking out the poorer quarters
Where the ragged people go
Looking for the places only they would know

Lie la lie ...

Asking only workman's wages
I come looking for a job
But I get no offers,
Just a come-on from the whores on Seventh Avenue
I do declare, there were times when I was so lonesome
I took some comfort there

Lie la lie ...

Then I'm laying out my winter clothes
And wishing I was gone
Going home
Where the New York City winters aren't bleeding me
Bleeding me, going home

In the clearing stands a boxer
And a fighter by his trade
And he carries the reminders
Of ev'ry glove that layed him down
Or cut him till he cried out
In his anger and his shame
"I am leaving, I am leaving"
But the fighter still remains

Lie la lie ...

纽约我去过了,纽约的冬天我还没碰过。然而何处没有冬天呢?奋斗仍需继续。

擦干泪水继续。

Monday, October 7, 2013

原来真的像鱼

几年前老大不断说我的头像鱼,我一直不明白,这是什么形容词?是褒或贬?
难道我头发洗得不够勤,冒鱼腥味了?


前天,哈比人给我拍一张剪影。我放大来看,吓 ,儿子说得没错。

像一只悠游珊瑚间的热带鱼。



有人又说,像河豚啊~~
碰到日本人就惨了!


嗨,姐妹,我们的脑袋差不多嘛!我的前世会不会是鱼呢?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

来登嘉楼走走

如果正在计划假期出游,不妨考虑登嘉楼深度旅游,放缓脚步,慢慢欣赏。
(咱们正为家乡做点事,反哺跪乳之恩。。。。)

 发霉的墙也有感觉。
阳光好,晒枕头。充满祥和的味道。

有海、有沙、有风、有闲情、有欢颜。
大船和绿豆。
绿豆换长豆----还是矮一截。:-P

p.s.感觉上好像在抄左眼,。。。。老人家特爱登嘉楼的。